Behind the Drag: Drag superstar BenDeLaCreme opens up about love and loss, and drag’s role in it all

Behind the Drag aims to showcase the off-stage lives of some of America’s most talented drag queens. The intimate series gives us the opportunity to meet the people behind our favorite over-the-top drag queens. Come back every Friday this summer to meet someone new!

BenDaLaCreme is a drag queen living in Provincetown, Massachusetts who finds peace in love and life through drag.

Her headlining show, “Ready to Be Committed,” is inspired by her partner Gus proposing and features a mix of comedy and storytelling rather than the traditional lip syncing and dancing you see in drag.

11 PHOTOSBenDeLaCreme on InstagramSee GalleryBenDeLaCreme on InstagramI’ve been having such a good time at @onlyatthecrown with my new show #readytobecommitted that I forgot to post about it! 😱 Tonight is show 3 and is SOLD OUT! It’s gunna be another great #Ptown summer!!! I would highly suggest getting advanced tickets! EDIT: THE POSTER IS LYING IM HERE UNTIL SEPT 2 NOT AUG 2ND!!! Reprints in progress 😂My brand new one woman show, Ready To Be Committed, opens in one week!! Come see me in NYC @thebeechman and then head up to Provincetown and see it again and again! For tickets and information head over to www.bendelacreme.com/events (Link in bio)#bendelacreme #readytobecommittedWith the gorgeous and talented ladies of Illusions! Im lucky to rub elbows with these gals in the dressing room night after night at @onlyatthecrown and tonight I was even LUCKIER to see their full show! Adore these women! @roxypopsqueen @paytonstjames @lakiamondale @billiebeetemOpening weekend of #ReadyToBeCommitted in NYC was a smashing success!! I couldn’t have done it without these fellas by my side! Thank you @thekevinheard for always going the extra mile to make these productions come together and @gus_lanza for not only handling every task and logistic, but also handling ME when I’m at my kookiest. Two shows have been added but might already be sold out idunno JUST TRY! OR come see me in Ptown [email protected] through Labor Day!Look who came to see my new solo show #ReadyToBeCommitted in #Provincetown tonight! We look stunning in white. 😍😍 #bearweek #ptownbears #ptown2019Thanks so much to @billboard and especially Joe Lynch, for a great sit-down about my brand new solo show, READY TO BE COMMITTED! (Link to the interview in bio) Caftan by: @the_mugwumpus Hair by: @bobbiepinzdotcom Photo by: Jessica Xie for @BillboardDrag Becomes Her is in full swing and I’m having the best time kikiing with @thepeacheschrist And hitting @thejinkx with a shovel.Sorry everyone but @briansimspa came to my show tonight in Ptown and we got married and now I’m the First Lady of Pennsylvania and he’s off the market. #vote #prep #hivprevention #ReadyToBeCommitted #bendelacreme #bearweekIt made my heart go twinkle stinkle to have @sashavelour and @johnny.velour at #ReadyToBeCommitted tonight – thanks for coming sweet baby boos! 👗 @the_mugwumpusToo long since I’ve had the chance to catch up with my @rupaulsdragrace season 6 sister @gia_gunn – how is she though? Delightful. Truly one of the sweetest peeps.Oh nothing just DEE CUTEST #dragbecomesher shirts featuring @thepeacheschrist @thejinkx and MEEEE.Get ‘em at our UK shows this month (hope you already bought a tick cuz we’re almost sold out) or possibly peacheschrist.com if you’re good. Please to clock: my edgy nail-on-every-other-finger look.Up Next

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“The proposal was a complete surprise and something that sort of manifested childhood dreams of mine, that as a queer person, I never necessarily thought I’d have when I was young,” Ben said.

“I know that I feel loved by Gus, because he is committed every day to figuring out how we are going to be the best partners to each other, and that kind of dedication is really, really difficult to anything, let alone another human being,” he added.

Ben had a difficult childhood, from being “an overtly queer kid from a very young age” and losing his biggest supporter, his mother, at the age of 13. He grew up feeling somewhat unaccepted by the people around him. So, when he discovered drag, he felt that he found his purpose. 

On stage, BenDaLaCreme is optimistic and upbeat, almost to a fault, and Ben often uses the character to talk to the audience about more difficult things.

“I do consider [drag] something spiritual and something sacred. I really think that drag is bigger than just performance. I can’t believe the life that I get to live,” he said. “And when I think about going back in time, and telling that 13 year old me, ‘Like oh my god, if you stick it out, this is the life that you’re gonna get.’ Now, I get the opportunity to say that to a generation of 13 year old me’s.”

“BenDeLaCreme is the best of me, distilled into a fictional character, who can be all good qualities.”

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