Gisele Bundchen claims her marriage to Tom Brady is successful because she has given him ‘a lot of attention’ and ‘that leads to fulfillment’
Gisele Bundchen and husband Tom Brady have been married for over 12-years. And the Brazilian model credits her ability to be ‘fully present’ as the secret behind her successful marriage to the NFL star.
‘I think that leads to fulfillment, because they don’t have half of you, they have all of you,’ she explained.
The super-model, who turns 40 this year, sat down with The Observer to discuss her personal mantras around emotional, physical, and mental health, as well as her life with Brady.
Attention giver: In her recent interview with The Observer, model Gisele Bündchen believes that her ability to give husband Tom Brady ‘a lot of attention’ has kept their marriage strong
Bundchen married Brady in 2009 after three years of dating. ‘I’ve been with my husband for more than 12 years now and, as you know, men are very… They want a lot of attention. They’re like, they demand…’
The Vogue cover-girl, attempting to keep things PG, let her thought playfully trail off. ‘[Men] need a lot of attention, like children do, like your family, your friends.’
The couple have a 10-year-old son, Benjamin, and an eight-year-old daughter, Vivian, together.
‘It’s the same thing with my kids. When I’m with them, I’m with them, on the floor with them, talking with them, really listening to them. Same with my husband.’
Met mates: The power couple snuggled up on the red carpet during the 2018 Met Ball in New York City
Bundchen also plays step-mom to Brady’s 12-year-old son, John, from his prior relationship with Blue Bloods star, Bridget Moynahan.
‘So I think the important part is to have fully present moments with everybody,’ urged the model.
In the remainder of the interview, Gisele explores her childhood in a small Southern town in Brazil, as well as her entry into the modeling world.
‘All I cared about back then was to be like this,’ referenced the model about her current life.
Full house: Bündchen and Brady share two children, Vivian, 8, and Benjamin, 10, as well as Brady’s son John, 12, from a previous relationship
In her 2018 book, Lessons: My Path to a Meaningful Life, Gisele explained that she was often bullied for having a thin frame and would layer up on clothes to thicken her legs.
So, eventually becoming ‘The Body’ in the fashion world after her McQueen runway debut, she finally gained the acceptance she always craved.
‘I wanted people to like me and it was important to me so I would go out of my way to say yes to everybody. I wanted to please everybody.’
This newfound social approval would lead to the model developing anxiety-related panic attacks.
In the interview, she recalls 2004 being her ‘rock bottom’ year.
At the time she was linked up with actor Leonardo DiCaprio and had just become the $25million dollar face of lingerie giant Victoria’s Secret.
Dark time: When Gisele was in a whirlwind romance with actor Leonardo DiCaprio, she was also dealing with the worst panic attacks of her life
With all of the pressure and focus being on her, the young model didn’t know how to handle it.
‘When I had a panic attack, I thought I was going to die. I was scared. I couldn’t breathe.’
And what she learned during one of her worst panic attacks, was that she was ‘creating’ this anxiety for herself. ‘We are creating the lives we are living with our actions and we have a choice.’
After eventually escaping her dark hole, Gisele strongly believes that ‘discipline’ cured her panic attacks and anxiety – and may cure it for others, too. ‘I could have taken a pill, but I decided no. I’m going to wake up every morning and I’m going to meditate and do breath work’ explained Bundchen.
She knows that the act of taking time to heal goes against society’s need for ‘instant gratification,’ but wanted readers to understand that ‘it took months’ for her to finally get over her panic attacks.
And that it all comes back to discipline and putting in the time and energy.
‘Everything starts with discipline,’ and ‘they just have to make the decision of working at it,’ she concluded.
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