Melinda Messenger admits feeling 'trapped' by public perception

‘It’s still a challenge not to be held back by it!’ Melinda Messenger admits feeling ‘trapped’ by public perception before trading glamour modelling for psychotherapy in her 40s

Melinda Messenger has detailed her transition from glamour model to psychotherapist during an appearance on Monday’s episode of Loose Women.

The TV personality, 49, detailed her struggle with other people’s perception of her before retraining as a psychotherapist 10 years ago. 

Although Melinda says her TV career was still thriving at the time, she admitted she would have regretted it if she hadn’t pursued her dream.

Candid: Melinda Messenger has detailed her transition from glamour model to psychotherapist during an appearance on Monday’s episode of Loose Women

She explained: ‘In 2010, I started retraining. I thought, I have children, I have bills to pay. I was working in television and there was no sign of that letting up. 

‘I thought, I can carry on doing what I’m doing but how painful would that regret be? I made the decision to go for it and I’ve been practising for the last five years and I can tell you, it’s the best thing I’ve ever done.’

Explaining that it wasn’t an easy decision to make, Melinda said: ‘It’s a big leap. Psychologically, you have all these dependencies and that fear of change is huge.

Wow! The TV personality, 49, detailed her struggle with other people’s perception of her before retraining as a psychotherapist 10 years ago (pictured in 1997)

Melinda went on to reveal that material goods no longer made her happy, as she sought something more meaningful in her life.

She said: ‘What helped me understand it was the process of psychotherapy itself and also I’d reached a point where money and having fabulous things was not meaningful to me in anyway and I wanted to be of service. 

‘That desire to be of service oversized everything else. I downscaled everything, sold everything. As everything does, it becomes self-rewarding. The pleasure I get from it is through the roof.’

No regrets! Although Melinda says her TV career was still thriving at the time, she admitted she would have regretted it if she hadn’t pursued her dream

She explained: ‘In 2010, I started retraining. I thought, I have children, I have bills to pay. I was working in television and there was no sign of that letting up’

The star admitted that it had always been her dream to become a psychiatrist, however she was under the belief that she wasn’t intelligent enough.

She said: ‘I hadn’t started my own therapy before the training. As far back as I can remember, I remember being around seven and thinking I wanted to be a psychiatrist. 

‘My mum said oh no you’d have to go to university, you can’t do that. We take in these ideas of what we can and can’t do. 

She said: ‘I thought, I can carry on doing what I’m doing but how painful would that regret be? I made the decision to go for it and I’ve been practising for the last five years and I can tell you, it’s the best thing I’ve ever done’ (pictured in 1997)

‘When you start challenging those things, you notice that your life around you changes and those ideas you took as truths are actually not.’

Opening up about her ‘internal struggle’, Melinda said: ‘A lot of it is an internal struggle. You can feel trapped by other people’s ideas of you. 

‘That can be an internal struggle. But if you know that’s just a perception and not the truth, it’s still a challenge not to be held back by that but you can still keep going forward. People will have ideas. The challenge is not to let that stop you.’ 

Meaningful: Melinda went on to reveal that material goods no longer made her happy, as she sought something more meaningful in her life

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