DEAR DEIDRE: FINDING some photos of my first wedding day in a drawer brought back memories of a painful time more than 40 years ago.

I was employed by a big civil engineering company and met a girl while working there.

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We hit it off immediately and after a whirlwind romance got married. This was in the 1980s.

I was 28 and my wife was 26. We had a perfect day and life was wonderful, or so I thought.

But my happiness was short-lived, as only four months later, my wife walked out on me.

I was devastated and never got a proper explanation about why she left.

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Finding these photos took me back to those bittersweet memories. Now I would like to find her and ask her why she went off in the way she did.

Even though I remarried and I’ve had a happy life, it still bugs me all these years later and I can’t let it rest.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It must have come as a huge shock when your wife walked out without a proper explanation.

But even if you did find her, there is no guarantee she would explain in full – even after all these years.

Chances are it won’t happen, so you may not get that closure you long for from her. It may be best to accept it happened and leave it in the past.

Talking it through with a counsellor will help you to offload your feelings (relate.org.uk) and my support pack Moving On can help too.