I'm ashamed to admit that I'm still a virgin at 40

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M ashamed to admit that I’m still a virgin at 40.

Nobody knows because I lived with my ex-partner for 15 years, from when I was in my mid-20s.

For more advice from Dear Deidre

No issue is too small, too large or too embarrassing. Read our personal replies here.

  • Dear Deidre on Mental Health
  • Dear Deidre on Identity  
  • Dear Deidre on Debt and Money 
  • Dear Deidre on Work
  • Dear Deidre on Health and Wellbeing 
  • Dear Deidre on Addiction

But although I loved her, she was weird about sex, and had no sex drive, so in the end I gave up trying.

Since we split up, I haven’t had another relationship. The main reason is I’m too embarrassed to tell a woman I’m a virgin.

And the older I get, the more humiliating it becomes.

Get in touch with Deidre

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

Send an email to [email protected]

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

But I really want to experience sex and to find love again before it’s too late. I know I have a lot to offer.

How can I find a woman who will be understanding and who won’t laugh at my lack of experience?

Most read in Dear Deidre


I told my date we weren't exclusive – but now she's dating the entire town


According to his exes, my boyfriend is a serial dogger


I want to call my girlfriend names during sex, but how do I ask her?


I'm in a good place after my divorce, but how do I date at my age?

DEIDRE SAYS: You are not alone, and you have nothing to be ashamed about. It’s not your fault your ex wouldn’t have sex.

The more you worry about this, the more it will be a problem.

My support pack, Finding The Right Partner For You, has information on where to meet potential partners.

Develop a friendship and grow to trust someone before having sex.

The right woman won’t care if you’re a virgin and will enjoy showing you what to do.

NEXT IN TODAY'S DEAR DEIDRE I slept with my ex at a party and now I might be pregnant

READ DEIDRE'S PHOTO CASEBOOK Jordan’s enjoying their open relationship, but Emma’s not sure

GET IN TOUCH How the page works and how to contact us

    Source: Read Full Article