DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a 31-year-old woman and have never had sex because I’m terrified it’s going to hurt.
I’ve always told my partners that I’m waiting for marriage.
For more advice from Dear Deidre
No issue is too small, too large or too embarrassing. Read our personal replies here.
- Dear Deidre on Mental Health
- Dear Deidre on Identity
- Dear Deidre on Debt and Money
- Dear Deidre on Work
- Dear Deidre on Health and Wellbeing
- Dear Deidre on Addiction
Now I’m due to tie the knot in June but I’m not convinced I’ll be able to do it then.
I think my fears stem from hearing my sister and mum talk graphically about their first times.
Both of them talked about bleeding. I’ve never even had foreplay with a guy because I’m nervous I’ll end up crying out in pain.
Get in touch with Deidre
Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.
Send an email to [email protected]
You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.
I don’t want this to ruin our wedding night.
Have you got any advice?
Most read in Dear Deidre
DEAR DEIDRE 
My lover left her stalker husband and kids for me but now she's having doubts
I've fallen out with my sister because she's unsupportive of our gay nephew
My partner lied to me about our finances – he's gambled away our savings
I might cheat on my wife as she's boring in bed and never wears sexy lingerie
DEIDRE SAYS: You’re not alone in worrying that your first time will hurt.
But, if you’re with someone caring and considerate, it shouldn’t hurt at all and at worst should only involve a little discomfort.
Foreplay is the key to making sex enjoyable – it is vital your partner ensures you are properly aroused.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
I might cheat on my wife as she’s boring in bed and never wears sexy lingerie
Jude secretly meets up with his lover while his mum’s out of the house
Try to build up your sexual experience and confidence slowly.
My support pack First Time Fears explains the process and has other useful tips.
Source: Read Full Article
